Just as fallen leaves nourish the soil, each part of ourselves that we “shed” during life transitions becomes part of the foundation for who we’re becoming.
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Autumn has arrived, and even though it’s been here for a while, its presence only recently settled deeply in my mind. The days are colder, the trees barer, and the leaves, once vibrant in red and orange, are now turning brown and falling. Autumn marks a visible shift, one that I didn’t fully grasp until I moved countries. Where I grew up, we technically had four seasons, but they weren’t as visually defined. You felt a shift, but you didn’t necessarily see it so vividly. Now, I find myself observing each change with an unexpected sense of wonder.
I’m fortunate to have a beautiful cherry tree right outside my window, which lets me witness the seasons unfold. In spring, it’s a burst of delicate blossoms; in summer, the green leaves filter sunlight into a soft, vibrant glow. Now, in autumn, I watch the colors shift to yellows, reds, and browns, until finally, the leaves fall. It stands bare in winter, snow accumulating on its branches. But come spring, it begins again—a fresh start, year after year. This tree is a constant, adapting to every change with quiet resilience.
Lessons from the Cherry Tree
Watching this tree, I think about how different it would feel if I were the one losing my “leaves.” It’s probably silly to compare myself to a tree, yet, just for a moment, I allow myself to think as a little kid and to embrace my own sense of infinite possibility. If I did experience such a transformation, I would likely be alarmed. Losing parts of myself, even temporarily, would feel frightening. If my leaves fell, if what I held dear or what I had come to identify with began to fade, I’d probably feel like I was on the verge of losing my essence.
Yet the tree goes through this every year, unfazed. It’s a powerful reminder that change, even the kind that feels like loss, is natural. The tree doesn’t cling to its leaves or resist the arrival of winter. It simply lets each season bring what it may, standing rooted, accepting the changes with calm and resilience. This acceptance has something to teach us.
The Seasons as Life Transitions
In life, we go through our own “seasons.” Sometimes we find ourselves in a personal “fall,” a period of change that feels unsettling. Like the sudden gusts and rains of autumn, certain life events—transitions like a new job, a move, a breakup, or even the loss of a loved one—can shake us to the core. These changes can leave us feeling as if parts of us are falling away, leaving us exposed to a personal winter.
Winter, in this analogy, represents a time of grief or introspection. It’s a season of stillness, where the energy withdraws from the surface and concentrates in the roots, unseen. This period is crucial, even if it feels desolate or endless. Just as the tree isn’t lifeless in winter, we, too, undergo unseen growth. Winter becomes a time of renewal, even though the world might appear bleak and dormant.
Finding Reassurance in Spring’s Return
As much as autumn and winter feel like endings, spring reminds us that new beginnings follow. Every spring, the cherry tree grows a bit differently, often with new branches, adapting to the previous year’s conditions. This cycle reassures us that no winter lasts forever, and that every ending makes space for something new to grow.
Just as fallen leaves nourish the soil, each part of ourselves that we “shed” during life transitions becomes part of the foundation for who we’re becoming. The “fallen leaves” of our lives—the experiences we let go of or the identities we transition from—don’t disappear. Instead, they nourish the deeper layers of our character, making our roots stronger and allowing us to stand tall through the next change.
Accepting the Cycle of Change—and Seeking Support When Needed
The beauty of life’s seasons lies in their impermanence. Each season, however challenging, brings something essential to our growth. Yet, just like trees sometimes need extra nourishment or pruning, we also need support to thrive through life’s changes. There’s no shame in seeking guidance; in fact, it’s often what allows us to flourish.
In the same way that a tree may need someone to prune its dead branches, we too might need help to remove outdated beliefs or patterns that no longer serve us. Therapy can act as that “gardener” in our lives, guiding us to release what’s weighing us down and to nurture the qualities that help us grow. Schema therapy, in particular, allows us to explore our core patterns, identify where we feel most vulnerable, and build new ways of coping. Through this process, we can start to understand who we are—not only in periods of growth but in times of loss, stillness, and renewal.
Just as the tree has the resilience to grow new branches, we too have the energy to adapt, heal, and change. Therapy reminds us that it’s okay to seek support in challenging seasons. By doing so, we strengthen our roots, deepen our self-understanding, and make space for new growth when spring eventually comes.
Are you facing a season of change in your life? Just like trees need nurturing through their cycles, we sometimes need support to grow through life’s transitions. If you’re ready to explore your path and gain insights into handling life’s “autumns” and “winters,” consider booking a session. Therapy can help you build resilience, release old patterns, and prepare for new growth.
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